Quarter Life Transition

Whew. Since I had my car accident my life has been in complete flux and its been hard to catch up. I’m officially on the east coast and currently Im working on a film. Between feb 9 and now I have learned more about producing and the entertainment industry than I have learned living in LA for three years! And Since I am in a sharing mood I’m going to share with you.

  1. Business Associates are not Friends so don’t put your trust in them.

Its really easy to feel like your colleagues in the industry are your friends that care about you. When I say don’t put your trust in them, I don’t mean you shouldn’t trust your colleagues. We put our trust in our parents and family members and sometimes relinquish control to them. This should never be done with business associates. Never get comfortable .These aren’t your friends no matter how friendly you are.

2.  Always have multiple streams of income.

Unfortunately I have been supa dupa po so I know how it feels when you are behind in rent and don’t have enough money for the phone bill. Whether its contributing to a blog or working remote as a social media manager you need to to have more than one job.

3. Don’t Show All Your Cards

Don’t give everyone all you resources. I used to feel like i had to overcompensate because I am young and i wanted people to know that I was a serious professional so I would divulge all my connections to networks and such. Its not necessary. Some people don’t deserve to know your PR contact. Keep it close to the vest.

4. Listen

I can’t say this enough. Most people NEVER listen. They wait to talk or they think about the next time they’re going to eat while you’re talking. Listening will help you discern you is full of shit and who is not.

5. Watch What People Do and Ignore What They Say

People say a lot of things, but watch what they do. And look out for inconstancies in what they say. A stepping stone is a stepping stone, but don’t do business with garbage people.

At this point, Im hyper focused on writing and producing. After I finish the last rewrite for my feature film, I’ll submit it to about 10 screenplay competitions and complete by next one. Im also in the process of writing a pilot and web series. My plan is to shoot my web series in the fall and collaborate with other artists in the tri state area. In the last week I have made my first TV pitch, pitched an idea to a film fund and I have less than $20 bucks in my account. Yes, the struggle is real. Yet there are so many opportunities abound. I’m still learning how I can capitalize on them.

 

Nydia

 

Why Im Moving Back to New York

If you haven’t heard already, by March 2nd I’m leaving LA for good. Well at least for now. When I had a visit back home, I felt like there was so much going on in NY and so much work for me if I was there. I was happy, having fun with people outside the business and around people who were CREATING. I was a little sad coming back to LA because there wasn’t much going on for me here. It felt like everything was a struggle. But I kept on saying “I can’t leave until I get what I came her for.” I came to LA to be a movie star. I truly believed it would happen for me here.

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My car immediately after the accident. A very nice police officer drove it off the sidewalk to a parking spot.

Then on Feb 1st I was in a car accident. A woman ran the red light and t-boned me, with the impact of the hit moving my car off the road onto the sidewalk nearly missing a woman walking her dog. I was injured and as a sat in the hospital alone, I thought. I’m done. I’m done being alone in LA. I can do this in NY. At first I felt like I would be starting over, but when I started to tell me close friends and colleagues they were excited and I even got a job…in New York!

 

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This is the Im done with LA face.

 

The funny thing is, I came to LA to be a movie star and I haven’t made it quite yet, but LA gave me all the tools I need to become a movie producer. Right now I’m the lead producer on a feature film that shoots in New Orleans in April with an all star cast and I get to call the shots. Everything I have done in the past has prepared me for this moment.

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Happy after the decision. I was on my way to the Image Awards!

Nydia

I Got Kicked Out of My Writers Group

About two years ago I was in this writers group called The Aspiring Writers Initiative and that’s exactly what I was…an aspiring writer. I wanted to write because I thought it would give me better leverage as an actress. The problem was I couldn’t write a screenplay for shit and my skill in poetry and short stories was not transferring very well to screenplay writing. Long story short, I got kicked out of the group. I couldn’t keep up and they couldn’t hold the group back because  of my inability to complete the assignments.

But as of today I have written a 112 page feature and I’m 19 pages into my second. I’m writing to tell you this because it took me two years to complete a solid beat sheet outline. I quit a lot during those two years, but this year I decided I wScreen Shot 2016-12-22 at 10.02.20 PM.pngouldn’t quit anymore and I would keep hitting my head against the wall until something came through. Eventually I had a decent outline and then I got the confidence to go deeper into the writing process. Now I’m on a roll and all I want to do is keep writing until I have 5-7 scripts on deck. Most actors aren’t sitting around excited about writing 13 pages in one day, but I am because I think I found a plan that works for me. Literally creating my catalog.

In the new year you may have no skills. But that doesn’t mean you can’t learn and grow. You can create any skill or talent you want with research and practice. Google is free ya’ll! At this point I’m convinced that I could learn how to build a tiny house if I really wanted to.

-Nydia

30 Day Discipline Challenge

I’ve been doing this 30 Day Discipline challenge and I’ve learned so much. Not only am I learning a lot but Im starting to see things change right before my eyes. So here is the challenge. Everyday I say my affirmations everyday. They include bodygoals, career goals, relationship goals and things I want to have. I also focus on being positive and speaking the things I want in my life. I’ve also been dressage up for often for average tasks, like going grocery shopping. Instead of wearing sweats I’ll put on a dress. It’s been going well. Now that I dress up i feel like people want to speak to me more.

Although the challenge is only for 30 days, I want to make it apart of my lifestyle. However I am excited to measure the fruits of the 30 day challenge. So far, I have a new bed, I’ve attracted new friends and Im starting to align with producers and famous actors. Nothing concrete yet, but after thirty days of completing my “rituals” I defiantly expect for some new developments in my career.

I definitely encourage you to do your own discipline challenge. I think writing down what you want to accomplish each day is crucial. I have a to do list for the rest of the year. If I complete everything on my to do list, I will have shot a short film and completed 3 screenplays along with writing an e-book. It’s 4 months, but thats still pretty impressive.

I started listening to Brian Tracy and he’s been crucial to helping me figure out my time management.

-Nydia

 

If You’re Still Here, You’ve Already Won

Over the past 72 hours my phone was stolen and my car literally wouldn’t start. I couldn’t complain to the dealer, because I didn’t buy it from a dealer (trying to get a deal) and my phone was coincidentally stolen while I was at a Christian event at a hotel in downtown Los Angeles.

If I was home, these things wouldn’t really bother me. But the fact that I’m 3000 miles away from family really affected my entire situation. I had to shell out more money than I wanted to. Something that probably wouldn’t be necessary if I was home and I had to be a car detective for the first time in my life.

Native New Yorkers don’t get cars. We don’t even get licenses until we turn 30. Anywhoo, I had to put my big girl panties on and I figured it all out. I did’t even cry! (I was close though) I don’t think people get enough credit for leaving their homes in pursuit of a new life or goal they have. Sometimes I’m surprised I haven’t gotten evicted, but then I remember, I have multiple people praying for me and I’m a pretty smart cookie.

If you left the safety and security of home to pursue something bigger, pat yourself on the back. Even if you only eat once a day. You are doing it! The fact you are still here proves you beat the odds.

Nydia

3 Year LAverssary!

Its been 3 years. I’m officially a toddler. Although I feel like I’ve learned so much and experienced a lot, I still feel like Im at the very beginning. I remember when it was my first week in LA and I met someone who had been here for 2 years. I thought she was an LA vet, but I resist the LA veteran status. I like being an expat. I’m starting to see how one can be in LA for 10 years and not accomplish much. I’ve been here 3 years and I don’t feel like I’ve done enough. But I have discovered the secret; Deadlines.

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Shooting a webseries in Hollywood.

Everyone is against it. They say you’re whole life should be dedicated to pursing yo
ur dream. Don’t put a deadline on it. But at some point you have to finish something. Although I have been able to participate in a bunch of film and web projects in LA nothing really pushed me forward enough for me to be content with where I am. Which i

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With Emmy nominee Anthony Hemingway at the “Underground” screening.

s why I have changed the way I’m pursuing my goal. Instead of auditioning like everyone else, I’m creating my own projects which means I’m doing a lot of writing and a day job doesn’t really inconvenience me. Currently I’m writing a comedic feature about a guy who gets transported into an alternate universe and has to find his way back home. So far I’m in the 2nd draft of the outline and I can actually see the end.

I think a big part of the reason actors don’t like deadlines when it comes to LA is because they have no idea how to get to the place they want to be, so they don’t know how long it could actually take. But once I started looking into what I needed to do to package my own film, it became very clear how long it would actually take and I gave myself a tight deadline. i.e. I’m supposed to have this script done by Oct 1st.

P.S Deadlines are your friend.

P.P.S.Follow me on Snapchat: nydiasimone

-Nydia

Stacy Dash has Always Been Clueless

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Cluelessness is Stacy’s natural habitat

Stacy Dash used to be an actress and now she’s known for finding new ways to piss off the black community at large. On the show Fox & Friends she said…wait. I won’t even paraphrase. I’ll let her speak for herself.

“STACEY DASH: We have to make up our minds. Either we want to have segregation or integration. And if we don’t want segregation, then we need to get rid of channels like BET and the BET Awards and the Image Awards where you’re only awarded if you’re black. If it were the other way around, we would be up in arms. It’s a double standard.
STEVE DOOCY (HOST): So you say there shouldn’t be a BET channel?
DASH: No, I don’t think so. No. Just like there shouldn’t be a Black History Month. You know? We’re Americans. Period. That’s it.
DOOCY: Are you saying there shouldn’t be a Black History Month because there isn’t a white history month?
DASH: Exactly. Exactly.”

Lets start from the beginning. She says “either we want segregation or integration”. The USA is integrated on paper, but not in practice. If it was integrated we wouldn’t have white communities, Asian communities or Hispanic communities, we’d have communities. An integrated America doesn’t have a China town in every city.  Some really smart people from UCLA actually studied the segregation in NYC.

 “While segregated schools are located throughout New York state, the segregation of schools in New York City — the country’s most heterogeneous area — contributes to the state’s standing. Of the city’s 32 Community School Districts, 19 had 10 percent or fewer white students in 2010. All school districts in the Bronx fell into that category. More than half of New Yorkers are black or Latino, but most neighborhoods have little diversity — and recent changes in school enrollment policies, spurred by the creation of many charter schools, haven’t helped. – Gary Orfield “

We essentially were never truly integrated and many reports say black people were more prosperous  under segregation.

Next. She says we shouldn’t have channels like BET and we should get rid of the BET Awards and Image Awards where you’re only awarded because you’re black. Cleary she doesn’t know how the BET Awards or Image Awards work. She may be salty because she has never won an award. Period. Like never. I checked. If you got an award just for being black, where’s mine?! I an black and woke to the core! She said if it were the other way around we would be up in arms. LOL. We are up in arms now. You just proved everyone else’s point.

And the Big Daddy Cane of them all “THERE SHOULD BE NO BLACK HISTORY MONTH BECAUSE THERE ISN’T A WHITE HISTORY MONTH. Actually its called Jan-Dec. All 12 months are dedicated to the celebration of whiteness. Everyday whiteness is celebrated. White women are celebrated for having big butts, small butts, being weird and quirky or being sexy and spicy, having red hair or blonde hair or brown hair, white men are celebrated for being smart and nerdy or being athletic and strong. The list goes on. What are black people celebrated for everyday? Don’t worry I’ll wait. That’s why we get a month, which is a step up from the week we used to get in 1937.

Stacy, stop being clueless and go read a book!

Do you think black cultural institutions like the NAACP Image Awards the BET Awards are necessary today? Or like Stacy  do you want to get rid of Black History Month? Let me know.

-Nydia